My Marriage was hell on earth-Chika Ike

Read Chika Ike’s touching story of her hellish marriage experience!marriage no be small thing o especially when you get married to the wrong person,

The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self-esteem. It’s been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence.

I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence. I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.

Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me.

The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it.

As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions, after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him. Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it.

I started losing my self-pride, self-esteem , self-worth, and most painfully I lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process, then I realized how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story. I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20 years old and very naïve to the world when I got married. “They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy, who had a 9am-5pm job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe. So do the maths! .

I married for love. I did a traditional wedding, a white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmel’s back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because it’s a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.